As many parents are in the world, there are an equal amount of
ineffective and effective parenting styles as well. Even though this is
the case, these styles have been divided into three different
categories. There are permissive, authoritarian and authoritative
parenting styles that people use to discipline their children. The last
kind is often thought to deliver the best results for parents who wish
to raise pleasant, well behaved and self reliant children.
This way of managing children permits parents to have a degree of control over their children without being too controlling. These parents will have a defined set of guidelines laid out and children will be expected to follow these guidelines. Although the guidelines are defined, they do allow for a certain degree of flexibility.
These parents are able to express their love for their children and are secure in the knowledge that such affection does not blur the lines when it comes to disciplining the children. When the children get older they will be allowed more freedom and responsibility while still remaining within certain parameters of rules that have been set down. This is on the basis that at this stage the children can be trusted as they have responded positively to this type of management all their lives.
Many childrens heath care associations are of the opinion that children who have been reared with this management technique grow up respecting authority and are both socially successful and independent. An example of this will be children responding positively to the instruction that while sweets may taste nice they are not really that healthy.
Authoritarian parenting involves quite a bit of control by the parents over the children. Many feel that this style is however excessively controlling. Here there are rules and guidelines that are rigid and therefore allow for no degree of flexibility at all. Obedience is strongly emphasized and these parents often feel the need to exercise power over their children.
These parents do not often display their love to the children and this can lead the children feeling somewhat rejected. Labels are often used to describe childrens behavior. So if the children do not adhere to instructions they can be referred to as being bad. They will not refer to the behavior as being bad.
The children of this type of management system will either become dependent on their parents forever or they will rebel against their parents and leave home early. In terms of the sweets example, in these homes sweets would never be allowed for the children. This management style can bring more problems that it is worth.
Some people prefer permissive parenting to the above style. Here there is much love shown and children are accepted as they are. Parents make very few demands on their children. This management style can be flawed as children never get to learn that there are consequences to actions. These children are most likely to be spoiled and will require spoon feeding emotionally and physically throughout their lives. Of the three parenting styles it does appear that authoritative parenting is the best route to go.
This way of managing children permits parents to have a degree of control over their children without being too controlling. These parents will have a defined set of guidelines laid out and children will be expected to follow these guidelines. Although the guidelines are defined, they do allow for a certain degree of flexibility.
These parents are able to express their love for their children and are secure in the knowledge that such affection does not blur the lines when it comes to disciplining the children. When the children get older they will be allowed more freedom and responsibility while still remaining within certain parameters of rules that have been set down. This is on the basis that at this stage the children can be trusted as they have responded positively to this type of management all their lives.
Many childrens heath care associations are of the opinion that children who have been reared with this management technique grow up respecting authority and are both socially successful and independent. An example of this will be children responding positively to the instruction that while sweets may taste nice they are not really that healthy.
Authoritarian parenting involves quite a bit of control by the parents over the children. Many feel that this style is however excessively controlling. Here there are rules and guidelines that are rigid and therefore allow for no degree of flexibility at all. Obedience is strongly emphasized and these parents often feel the need to exercise power over their children.
These parents do not often display their love to the children and this can lead the children feeling somewhat rejected. Labels are often used to describe childrens behavior. So if the children do not adhere to instructions they can be referred to as being bad. They will not refer to the behavior as being bad.
The children of this type of management system will either become dependent on their parents forever or they will rebel against their parents and leave home early. In terms of the sweets example, in these homes sweets would never be allowed for the children. This management style can bring more problems that it is worth.
Some people prefer permissive parenting to the above style. Here there is much love shown and children are accepted as they are. Parents make very few demands on their children. This management style can be flawed as children never get to learn that there are consequences to actions. These children are most likely to be spoiled and will require spoon feeding emotionally and physically throughout their lives. Of the three parenting styles it does appear that authoritative parenting is the best route to go.
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